If you’ve watched “Ah Boys To Men” and witnessed Ken Chow’s girlfriend breaking up with him during National Service (NS), you’ll understand that relationships may face challenges during this period. To navigate this transitional period successfully, it’s essential to be prepared for the challenges that may arise and to adopt strategies for maintaining both personal well-being and relationships.
What to expect in NS?
When your loved one first enlists, both you and their parents can attend the enlistment ceremony to show support and bid farewell.
During the initial phase of Basic Military Training (BMT), which spans three months, there’s a confinement period lasting three weeks, during which they won’t be able to leave their camp. It’s important to be mentally prepared for this separation.
While communication via phones is allowed during NS, responses may be sporadic due to their demanding schedule. However, there’s some relief as they’ll have opportunities to book out on certain days, depending on their Physical Employment Standard (PES). Those with lower PES standards may enjoy weekday book outs as well.
The most challenging part of NS is when they’re deployed for outfield training, spending five days in the forest with zero contact. It’s a tough time for both of you, but staying strong and supportive is crucial.
NS comes with its own set of acronyms and terminology, such as Officer Cadet School (OCS) and CAT 1. Familiarising yourself with these terms will enable you to engage in meaningful conversations and better understand their experiences.
What to prepare?
It’s become popular for girlfriends to prepare NS care packages, demonstrating their support and love for their partners during this challenging period. These packages often include essentials like sunscreen, deodorant, Gatsby wipes, Febreze and a power bank, ensuring they’re equipped for the demands of National Service while reminding them of your care and thoughtfulness.
How to survive?
While your boyfriend may not be able to meet you on weekdays due to National Service commitments, he should still be able to contact you. Make use of scheduled messages to stay connected, especially during outfield training.
In the meantime, it’s important to focus on yourself—whether it’s dedicating time to studies or work, keeping busy with hobbies, or socialising with friends—to maintain a healthy balance and keep your mind occupied.
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