At some point in life, I have experienced heartbreak and pain. Be it losing a close friend, ending things with my partner, or fighting my inner demons. Things get tough sometimes, but life goes on. Life does not stop when one is not feeling the best.
There are times when I would just lie down on my bed and let my thoughts run in my head. Other times I would cry to sleep, which I know is very unhealthy especially when you have much ahead of you. I am slowly learning to heal from these thoughts and feelings and tell myself that things are going to be okay.
There are some things that I would do to distract myself from these thoughts and I am here to share this with you. This is my personal guide to feeling better after a heartbreak.
It Is Okay Not to Be Okay
I struggled with this when I experienced my first heartbreak. Being the eldest in the family, there are some expectations I have to live up to. I seldom have time to sit down and pay attention to my thoughts and what I am going through.
I would always put a smile on my face for the sake of my family. Some part of me wants them to know that I am not okay but some part of me did not want to disappoint them. I kept telling myself that I have to stay strong for my family. But sometimes, it just does not work.
As I grew older, I finally understood and told myself that my feelings are valid. I am human and it is normal to feel sad and not be at my best. At some point, everyone feels the same. I started paying attention to my feelings and tell myself that it is totally okay to not be okay.
Each day, I would set aside time to reflect on my thoughts and feelings. I would write them down in my journal and keep track of them as time goes by and it has helped me understand myself and feel better.
Do The Things You Love
This is pretty common advice I have gotten from my family members and some of my friends. The best way to feel better is to do what you love. It is like a healthy coping mechanism and I have adopted many hobbies since the circuit breaker started.
Now that the heightened Phase 2 regulations are taking place, this gives me another opportunity to focus on myself and spend some time engaging in the things I love to do. Some of these things include painting, dancing, scrapbooking, and trying out new recipes.
By doing these activities, I am able to distract myself from all the unnecessary negativities. It gives me a chance to breathe and calm my thoughts. Sometimes all I need is a little breather to feel better.
Have Someone to Talk to
Sometimes it is pretty tough to share your thoughts and feelings to another person. I was that person before. I was so scared to talk to other about what I am feeling because I used to think that people would not understand where I am coming from.
It can also be tough to find the right person to talk to but fortunately for me, my mom has always been my support and shoulder to cry on. She has always been there for me through thick and thin. I would always tell her about my feelings, and she gives the best advice.
Take It One Step At A Time
Healing takes time. Take it slow, because you do not have to rush things. Understand your feelings and why are you feeling the way you feel. I took a couple months to heal from my first heartbreak and it was worth it.
Self-love comes first over anything else. We are important because at the end of the day, we only have ourselves. Forget about the expectations of other because you know you the best. Take baby steps and everything is going to be okay.
This is my personal guide. Feel free to do you. The things that work for me might not work for you. Find the things that help you deal with these issues, and you too will be feeling better soon.
